20 Year Reunion

July 30, 2006 | Category: Personal, Random Thoughts

I attended my 20 year High School reunion on Saturday evening and it was good to see the folks and catch up on life. Since I have changed my appearance quite dramatically I enjoyed the looks I got and appreciated the comments I received. I recognized some of the people which is surprising as they have either not changed or changed very little in twenty years. Others I could not believe how different they look and I was glad we had name tags with our Grad pictures as I needed the help in a few cases. It is always interesting to hear what people are doing and about their families. I saw quite a few pictures from very proud parents showing off their children. A few of the the people I spoke with are doing exactly what they thought they would for a career and others are doing things completely opposite from what they expected to do with their lives. That is not surprising as the paths we take are sometimes outside our control and we sometimes end up taking paths which we could never imagine we would follow.

Something that hit home with me as I described what I have been doing during the last 20 years, was how much I miss not having a special lady or children in my life. I guess two mistakes I have made in my life is that I put my career ahead of everything for too long and the second thing is I have not been able to maintain a relationship and have that special lady stay in my life. This has left me with an emptiness in my life and as I get older I feel that my chances are getting slimmer that I will meet that special someone. My friends keep telling me I will meet someone someday…I hope they are right as being alone and having no one to share my life makes me very unhappy.

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5 Comments

  1. Rachel on July 31st, 2006
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    Hey it is never too late!

    You are only 41 which means you can find that special lady and still make it to your 50th wedding anniversary :)

    Besides you are a guy so you are not racing with a biological clock.

    I find that if you make it your intentionn to do or find something (I.e. I want to find someone special) then you will find it.

    I have my ten year coming up in a little over three years. I am not sure I would go though.

  2. Rita on July 31st, 2006
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    In my personal experience, I have learned that you often find things when you stop looking for them. This happens to me a lot when I am shopping (or not, as the case may be) for some article of clothing.

    I must admit, though, that St. Catherine of Alexandria (she is said to assist women in finding their soul mates) was certainly responsible for my finding David. (And, it’s just too coincidental that she is also the patron saint of archivists!)

    According to “Heaven Help Us: The Worrier’s Guide to the Patron Saints” (Alice La Plante & Clare La Plante), you should be invoking the help of St. Martin de Porres to find true love … ;)

  3. Anthony on July 31st, 2006
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    Rachal - Thanks and I keep forgetting it isn’t my biological clock I have to worry about :-P And I think you should go to your reunion I was not going to go to mine because I kinda knew I was going to feel this way afterwards but I still enjoyed seeing everyone and catching up with folks. And I will enjoy celebrating my 50th Anniversary!

    Rita - While I know that you tend to find things if you are not looking for them, I spent a long time not pursuing that special lady and nothing happened. I only started to have some success when I actively pursued the fairer sex. So I guess in my case not trying to find that special woman has not worked for me. Although truth be told neither has looking gotten me anywhere either. I guess I can try talking to St. Martin…at least it cannot hurt. Although maybe St Jude would be a better Saint for me.

    Thanks for the info. and I guess we’ll see what kind of luck St Martin can bring my way. :-)

  4. Kate on August 1st, 2006
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    You’re a bit older than me but I completely sympathize with you as I am going through the same thing and lonliness transcends age. I hate the whole you gotta stop looking to find it theory. You can’t be desperate but yes, you do need to put yourself out there in a way that is comfortable and natural for you.

  5. Anthony on August 13th, 2006
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    Thanks Kate I appreciate someone else who sees that you need to put the goods on display (So to Speak) I hear too much from people that I should just wait and something good will happen.

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